In my experience, talking to women bloggers and writers, they are quite likely to get abusive comments and e-mail, and receive more of it not only than what I get personally (which isn’t difficult) but more than what men bloggers and writers typically get. I think bloggers who focus on certain subjects (politics, sexuality, etc) will get more abusive responses than ones who write primarily on other topics, but even in those fields, women seem more of a target for abusive people than the men are. And even women writing on non-controversial topics get smacked with this crap. I know knitting bloggers who have some amazingly hateful comments directed at them. They’re blogging about knitting, for Christ’s sake.
This is a good post, but read the whole thing cause the pull doesn’t do it justice. Thank you to SaltCityGirl for the link on Twitter.
Insert Comment Here about how “Hey assholes, maybe this is why the expat-in-Korea blogosphere is so overwhelmingly male and women don’t engage as much with your posts or forums.”
Part of the problem is that we are being heard and not seen, which is the opposite of what we should be doing. The number of calls I’ve had to post my photo, and the speculation that begins as to what I look like, whenever I get into a heated conversation with or post something that draws the attention of a primarily male audience are incredible, based on the relation my looks actually have to the subject matter at hand. Since I’ve been linked from Expathell, for example, the number of hits coming through on my statcounter that relate to “photo” or “what imnopicasso looks like” have sky-rocketed.
They need to know, so that they know how seriously to take our words, or what reaction is appropriate. Or just to have the ‘right’ ammo to sling back. You look like this so you are/are not allowed to say that. It makes a lot of men very uncomfortable not to know if the woman they are engaging with is sexually desirable or not.
Everyone should read this John Scalzi blog and the linked Shawna James Ahern post.
I read the post from the lady who is getting harrassed and it’s insane. THE HORRORS OF PROCESSED CHEESE.
“Mr. Basek took a few moments to process the situation. In the kitchen, making coffee with his girlfriend, he explained, “I think a famous porn star likes my tweets.” With her blessing, Mr. Basek fired off a coy reply, “@BreeOlson Thanks for the kind words. For the record, only my beard is ginger.”—
“Here’s the thing, though, about reality and celebrity culture: They’re pretty much devoid of wit. This is by design; it’s a feature, not a bug. It’s all built to allow us to be witty. All the humor and sublime ridiculousness of watching, say, Real Housewives comes in the commentary we pile on it and the jokes we’re set up to make from it, whether on the couch or online. This is a huge part of culture that has basically outsourced the work of being clever or meaningful onto the audience. Something similar goes on with reality competitions (Idol), and even with Glee, which seems entirely built around the idea of dressing up in pop music, reveling in stagey imitation and bedroom-mirror theatrics. (I can’t think of anything better suited to the earnest, overachieving contingent of Gen Y.) And at some point while watching this year’s VMAs, in between laughing at other people’s Twitter jokes, it began to look like this was what we have now instead of a pop mainstream — just people walking through an entryway that looked like a Georgia O’Keefe painting and smiling their way through fun theatrics for the audience to pick apart later. Apparently everyone’s smart and savvy enough to have abandoned the idea that anyone could perform a piece of music, on television, that brought its own content with it, and surprised anyone, or motivated them, or freaked them out.”—
From the first days of reality TV—narrative, character-driven storytelling that uses real people and real lives as its subject matter—the genre has left a trail of human wreckage. Its stars have been arrested for DUI, assault, drug possession, sex with minors and domestic violence. An MTV Road Rules alum and Challenge cast member who was arrested for public urination later smeared the walls of his jail cell with his own feces and then bragged about his misbehavior on Twitter. Survivor’s first winner is in prison—again—for tax evasion, the same charge a recent Big Brother winner eventually pled guilty to, in addition to possession with attempt to distribute oxycodone as part of a drug ring the government says he funded using his $500,000 prize from the CBS reality series.
Another Big Brother contestant morphed into a hard-core gay porn star, and he’s not alone. Familiar faces show up in adult films with surprising regularity. The first celebrity reality-TV show took cameras into the home of Ozzy and Sharon Osbourne for MTV’s The Osbournes. Two of their kids went to rehab for drug addiction, and Sharon went on to appear on other reality series, including VH1’s Rock of Love: Charm School, which ended with an out-of-court settlement following Sharon’s physical confrontation with a cast member, a woman who got her own series, which featured her dating millionaires and which was pulled off the air because one of them killed his wife and later committed suicide. His death was one in a series of suicides that received media attention in 2009 because the dead people had all once appeared on reality-TV shows.
I don’t care about Tyler The Creator. People are always going to say stupid shit, people are always going to be assholes, people are always going to hate other people.
What I care about is a society and media culture that glorifies Tyler The Creator. I care about an environment so caustic that kids (I’m assuming, perhaps depressingly incorrectly, that no one over the age of 15 is leaving comments like “go suck a pimple covered dick”) think it’s ok. Know why? Because I have a kid now. I’m going to do everything I can to raise her the best I’m able to, but the world around her is going to teach her just as much as I do, and I have a right to give a shit.
My parents did everything they could, and they did a great job, and I was still a fuck-up. I would have liked Tyler The Creator when I was 15. And that scares me, as far as Audrey is concerned. She’s probably going to watch MTV, or whatever its equivalent is in a decade, because she’s a kid. I don’t want her to see a woman-beater glorified and a misogynist awarded while lyrics like “We go skate, rape sluts, and eat donuts from Randy’s” are simply ignored, if not celebrated.
I don’t care if Tyler The Creator wants to be awful in private. It’s when a culture empowers him to be massively public that I worry. And I get it, I should just not blog about him, but I get read by a couple thousand people. I’m not Rolling Stone, The Village Voice, the NEW YORK TIMES, or any of the other massively influential publications that have given him press. To try to derail my concern with “well just don’t blog about it” is kind of shitty, even if it’s meant to be comforting.
Oh, I think there’s a discussion to be had about Tyler (although it might be overdone at this point and I’m not sure if there’s anything new to say, at least for someone who isn’t interested in his work). I just wonder how useful it is to make that point as many of us are watching and rewarding MTV with promotion during the show. It would be more sensible for people to decide against watching as a result of their support of offensive artists, but people wanted to see Beyonce regardless of who else was on the program.
This intersects with a lot of my talk about ironic TV watching and complaining about terrible people and managing to promote those terrible people in the process and I’m going to enter a black hole of media criticism if I go on.
Keep in mind that I was reading Twitter for a bit and all of a sudden it was OH GOD CHRIS BROWN IS HERE AND STILL TERRIBLE over and over again and at that point I needed to go away from the computer. Also, I hate award shows except for random Youtube clips of good people performing.
FWIW, the best way to get at Tyler is a pointed campaign on Twitter to encourage a change in his lyrics. I’d send e-mails to the kids who badgered Reallyfoxnews but talking to obnoxious teenagers on the internet is a waste of time.
“When you’re young, you look at television and think, There’s a conspiracy. The networks have conspired to dumb us down. But when you get a little older, you realize that’s not true. The networks are in business to give people exactly what they want. That’s a far more depressing thought. Conspiracy is optimistic! You can shoot the bastards!”—Steve Jobs http://on.wsj.com/n9ou2O (via cdixon)
Don't be mad, guys, Kim Kardashian's just going to make bank while you cry about it.
Still not surprised that people here underestimate the business savvy of these supposedly dumb reality TV stars. Put yourself out there, act dumb for the cameras, get paid. They’ll be doing this as long as you keep talking about them.
Did you know that Jessica Simpson might have the first billion dollar celebrity clothing line? Who saw that coming?
“A good margarita is in the lime; it’s got to lean towards the sour. Tequila once you mix it into a cocktail could be anything - as long as it’s fairly decent it’s ok. It’s the sourness to sweet ratio that is really important.”—DANIEL CRAIG IS A SMART HUMAN.